Manhood Week 4: Courtesy and treating women with honor
Week 4: Friendship; courtesy and a congenial disposition
How ought we to treat our brothers?
Eph 4:29 Let know unwholesome word proceed from your mouth but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that give grace to those who hear.
How ought we to treat the women we date?
Proverbs 7:1Follow my advice, my son ; always treasure my commands.2Obey my commands and live ! Guard my instructions as you guard your own eyes. 3Tie them on your fingers as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. 4Love wisdom like a sister; make insight a beloved member of your family.5Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman , from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman.
6While I was at the window of my house, looking through the curtain,7I saw some naive young men, and one in particular who lacked common sense.8He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman, strolling down the path by her house.9It was at twilight, in the evening, as deep darkness fell.10The woman approached him , seductively dressed and sly of heart.11She was the brash, rebellious type, never content to stay at home.12She is often in the streets and markets, soliciting at every corner.13She threw her arms around him and kissed him, and with a brazen look she said, ..15You’re the one I was looking for! I came out to find you, and here you are!16My bed is spread with beautiful blankets , with colored sheets of Egyptian linen.17I’ve perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.18Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning. Let’s enjoy each other’s caresses,19for my husband is not home. He’s away on a long trip.20He has taken a wallet full of money with him and won’t return until later this month.” 21So she seduced him with her pretty speech and enticed him with her flattery.22He followed her at once, like an ox going to the slaughter. He was like a stag caught in a trap,23awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart (Liver). He was like a bird flying into a snare, little knowing it would cost him his life. 24So listen to me, my sons, and pay attention to my words.25Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her. Don’t wander down her wayward path.26For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims.27Her house is the road to the grave. Her bedroom is the den of death.
2 Samuel 11:1 In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem.
2 One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, 3 and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” 4 Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (Now she was purifying herself from her monthly uncleanness.) Then she went back home. 5 The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.”
6 So David sent this word to Joab: “Send me Uriah the Hittite.” And Joab sent him to David.
Psalm 32: When I refused to confess my sin,
my body wasted away,
and I groaned all day long.
4 Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me.
My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat.
5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you
and stopped trying to hide my guilt.
I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.”
And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.
Jim Jones Massacre
Historical Importance of the Jonestown Massacre: The Jonestown Massacre, which had a death toll of 918 people, was the most deadly single non-natural disaster in U.S. history until September 11, 2001. The Jonestown Massacre also remains the only time in history in which a U.S. congressman was killed in the line of duty.
Date: November 18, 1978
Don’t think that it is ok to do something just because everyone is doing it around you.
But you may say to yourself: Isaac, Look at TV and the movies
Isaac, I have needs and God wants me to meet those needs and be happy
What if God is more concerned about your holiness than your happiness?
I know a woman that was caught in an affair with a man, the kids wrote her a letter
Lets contrast the Proverbs 7 woman with the Proverbs 31 woman
Proverbs 31:Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.11Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.12She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life..15She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. 16She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.17She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.18She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. 19Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber.20She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.21She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. 22She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.23Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders… 25She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.26When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.27She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. 28Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her:29“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” 30Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.31Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Proverbs 11:32 A beautiful woman who lacks discretion
is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.
Proverbs 19:13 and 27:15 A quarrelsome wife is as annoying
as constant dripping on a rainy day
Proverbs 21:9 and 25:24 It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic (roof) than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.
dis·cre·tion
: the right to choose what should be done in a particular situation
: the quality of being careful about what you do and say so that people will not be embarrassed or offended : the quality of being discreet
: the quality of having or showing discernment or good judgment : cautious reserve in speech
Proverbs 7:1Follow my advice, my son ; always treasure my commands.2Obey my commands and live ! Guard my instructions as you guard your own eyes. 3Tie them on your fingers as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. 4Love wisdom like a sister; make insight a beloved member of your family.5Let them protect you from an affair with an immoral woman , from listening to the flattery of a promiscuous woman.
6While I was at the window of my house, looking through the curtain,7I saw some naive young men, and one in particular who lacked common sense.8He was crossing the street near the house of an immoral woman, strolling down the path by her house.9It was at twilight, in the evening, as deep darkness fell.10The woman approached him , seductively dressed and sly of heart.11She was the brash, rebellious type, never content to stay at home.12She is often in the streets and markets, soliciting at every corner.13She threw her arms around him and kissed him, and with a brazen look she said, ..15You’re the one I was looking for! I came out to find you, and here you are!16My bed is spread with beautiful blankets , with colored sheets of Egyptian linen.17I’ve perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.18Come, let’s drink our fill of love until morning. Let’s enjoy each other’s caresses,19for my husband is not home. He’s away on a long trip.20He has taken a wallet full of money with him and won’t return until later this month.” 21So she seduced him with her pretty speech and enticed him with her flattery.22He followed her at once, like an ox going to the slaughter. He was like a stag caught in a trap,23awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart (Liver). He was like a bird flying into a snare, little knowing it would cost him his life. 24So listen to me, my sons, and pay attention to my words.25Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her. Don’t wander down her wayward path.26For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims.27Her house is the road to the grave. Her bedroom is the den of death.
2 Samuel 11:1 In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem.
2 One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, 3 and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” 4 Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (Now she was purifying herself from her monthly uncleanness.) Then she went back home. 5 The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.”
6 So David sent this word to Joab: “Send me Uriah the Hittite.” And Joab sent him to David.
Proverbs 31:Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.11Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.12She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life..15She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. 16She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.17She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.18She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. 19Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber.20She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.21She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. 22She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.23Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders… 25She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.26When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.27She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. 28Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her:29“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” 30Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.31Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Proverbs 11:32 A beautiful woman who lacks discretion
is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.
Proverbs 19:13 and 27:15 A quarrelsome wife is as annoying
as constant dripping on a rainy day
Proverbs 21:9 and 25:24 It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic (roof) than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.
dis·cre·tion
: the right to choose what should be done in a particular situation
: the quality of being careful about what you do and say so that people will not be embarrassed or offended : the quality of being discreet
: the quality of having or showing discernment or good judgment : cautious reserve in speech